You may have been feeling that your marriage had lost its spark for some time, but you may have been willing to work on your relationship before calling it quits. Therefore, if you were served divorce papers unexpectedly, you'll likely be feeling shocked, distraught and heartbroken.
The course that your divorce will take can depend on a lot of factors that are beyond your control. The state in which you are eligible to divorce has certain laws to which your divorce will be subject, for example. You'll also be unable to control how your spouse will approach the divorce process.